In this article we outline a few of the initial questions people have on the subject of divorce or separation and touch on what you can expect from a first meeting with a solicitor.
Very few people set out expecting to research divorce or separation and we understand that this can be a time where you feel overwhelmed, anxious, frightened, but often quite certain that something has to change.
Firstly, we want you to know that wherever you are emotionally, that is entirely valid. Speaking to a solicitor does not mean you have failed. It means you are looking for clarity, stability, and a way forward.
In this article, we will touch on some of the initial questions we receive and what you can expect from a first meeting.
Understanding your options: Separation and divorce
One of the first questions we are asked is: “What is the first step?”
Before anything formal happens, it is important to understand the difference between separation and divorce.
A separation can be informal. You may decide to live apart, or you may remain under the same roof but live separate lives. There is no requirement to begin court proceedings immediately. Some couples choose this route to create space and consider their options.
A divorce, however, is the formal legal process that brings a marriage to an end.
Under the current no-fault divorce system in England and Wales, there is no need to assign blame. One or both parties can apply for a divorce on the basis that the marriage has irretrievably broken down. There is a 20-week reflection period between the application being issued and applying for the Conditional Order, followed by a further six weeks before the Final Order can be made.
Importantly, one party cannot usually prevent the divorce from proceeding simply because they disagree with it.
Understanding this framework often brings immediate relief. The process is structured, measured, and not designed to inflame conflict.
Do you need a Solicitor for a separation or divorce?
Another common question is whether legal advice is necessary.
While it is possible to issue a divorce application without representation, divorce is rarely just about ending the marriage. It also involves:
- Financial arrangements
- The family home
- Pensions
- Business interests
- Ongoing financial support
- Arrangements for children
The divorce itself is often the most straightforward part. It is the financial settlement and child arrangements that require careful consideration.
Even if you are not ready to proceed, a single conversation can help you understand your position and avoid decisions that could negatively affect you later.
Am I ready for a meeting with a solicitor about divorce or separation?
Many people worry that they need to arrive at a first meeting with everything perfectly organised. You do not.
A first meeting is a confidential, calm conversation. It is not a commitment to start proceedings that day. It is not a confrontation. It is an opportunity.
During that meeting, we will:
- Listen to your situation
- Understand your priorities and concerns
- Explain how the law applies to your circumstances
- Outline possible routes forward (negotiation, mediation, court if necessary)
- Discuss likely timescales
- Be transparent about costs
You will have the opportunity to ask questions — even questions that feel small or obvious. There is no judgment.
Most people leave that first meeting feeling lighter. Not because everything is resolved, but because uncertainty has been replaced with understanding.
If you are considering separation, or simply need to understand where you stand, we encourage you to have a confidential conversation. You do not need to have everything decided. You do not need to have every document in order. You simply need to take the first step towards understanding your options.
Clarity brings confidence. And confidence allows you to move forward — thoughtfully, securely, and with the right support around you.
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