Divorce without the drama

by Kidd Rapinet on February 5, 2025
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How mediation is replacing litigation

Divorce is often seen as a stressful, drawn-out battle in the courtroom, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Mediation is transforming the way couples approach divorce in the UK, offering a less contentious, more constructive path to resolution. By focusing on cooperation and practical solutions, mediation not only saves time and money but also helps preserve relationships—particularly important for those co-parenting children.

What is mediation?

Mediation is a structured process where a neutral, professionally trained mediator helps separating couples negotiate and resolve issues such as a financial and property settlement and child care arrangements. Unlike court proceedings, mediation prioritises open communication and mutual agreement, enabling couples to retain control over the outcomes rather than leaving decisions in the hands of a judge.

The benefits of mediation 

  1. Less stressful and combative – mediation shifts the focus away from winning or losing and encourages cooperation. This can reduce stress and tension, particularly important when children are involved.
  2. Faster resolution – court litigation can take months or even years to resolve, while mediation often concludes in a matter of weeks or months. This allows couples to move on with their lives sooner.
  3. Cost-effective – with legal fees rising, mediation offers a significantly cheaper alternative to lengthy court proceedings. The reduced time involved also means lower overall costs.
  4. Child-focused solutions – for parents, mediation allows for tailored agreements that prioritise the best interests of the children, often creating a more positive co-parenting dynamic post-divorce.

When is mediation suitable?

Mediation works best when both parties are willing to engage in good faith and are open to compromise. It may not be appropriate in cases involving domestic abuse or significant power imbalances, where court intervention may be necessary to ensure fairness and safety.

Legal requirements for mediation 

In the UK, couples are required to attend a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM) before applying to court for most family law matters, unless exemptions apply (e.g., cases involving domestic abuse). This requirement underscores the growing emphasis on mediation as the preferred starting point for resolving disputes.

How a solicitor can support you during mediation  

While mediators remain neutral, solicitors play a crucial role in advising clients during the mediation process either alongside the mediation sessions, if the couple attend mediation alone, or hybrid mediation in which your lawyer attends the mediation sessions with you. We help you understand your legal rights and obligations, ensuring the agreements reached in mediation are fair and legally sound. Once an agreement is reached, we can formalise it into a legally binding consent order.

This publication is a general summary of the law. It should not replace legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.

This article was brought to you by Kidd Rapinet’s family solicitors. You can book an appointment with any of the family lawyers across our other offices in Aylesbury, Canary Wharf, Farnham, High Wycombe, Maidenhead or Slough, using the form provided.  Please use the links provided to find more information on divorce or separation, child arrangements and other areas of family law.

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